Aubrey Marcus is at it again. We’re now on podcast number four in what I call the cosmic throuple-quadrupole-plant-medicine polyamory saga. Each episode seems to dig the hole deeper, and this time, his attempt to explain masculine and feminine energy proves once again that he has no idea what he’s talking about.
In this Aubrey Marcus podcast reaction, I’ll recap the latest drama, explain why his views are deeply flawed, and give you a breakdown of what healthy masculine and feminine dynamics actually look like.
Who Is Aubrey Marcus and Why Does This Matter?
For those who don’t know, Aubrey Marcus is a well-known spiritual influencer, self-described psychonaut, and long-time proponent of plant medicine. He was once engaged, then shifted into marriage with his wife Viola, promising monogamy—until recently revealing that they’ve been “monogamish” all along.
Since then, each podcast episode has layered on more confusion:
- Installment 1: He admits to bringing in a third person into their marriage.
- Installment 2: His ex-fiancée interviews him in a bizarre, tear-filled defense.
- Installment 3: He, his wife, and her boyfriend play a surreal “sacred improv” game.
- Installment 4 (the current one): Aubrey goes on a friend’s podcast to defend his version of “expanded monogamy.”
This brings us to today’s breakdown.
Aubrey’s Confusion About Masculine & Feminine Energy
During the latest interview, Aubrey Marcus was asked: “What is the role of masculinity in the modern world?”
His answer? Masculinity is about penetration—penetrating the world, the marketplace, and everything else.
That’s it. No mention of:
- Stoicism (emotional control)
- Discipline
- Provision and protection
- Containment and leadership
These are all foundational traits of the healthy masculine, and yet none appeared in his answer. Instead, Aubrey reduces masculinity to a surface-level, almost juvenile metaphor that reveals how little he embodies true masculine energy.
The Jealousy Obsession
Another bizarre part of this episode was Aubrey’s fixation on jealousy. He framed polyamory as a way to “transcend jealousy,” describing scenarios of his wife with other men in explicit detail.
Here’s the problem: jealousy in that situation is normal. A man’s discomfort with his wife being intimate with others isn’t something to “transcend.” It’s a natural boundary. Instead of admitting he has a kink, Aubrey disguises it under spiritual language like “transcending emotions.”
This is a recurring pattern in these podcasts: normal human reactions are pathologized, then repackaged as spiritual growth.
Viola’s Role: Wounded Feminine Energy
Aubrey also claims that his wife provides him with masculine energy while his side partner, Alana, gives him feminine energy. But here’s the truth: Viola is not masculine at all. She embodies wounded feminine energy—immature, ungrounded, and drawn to controlling men.
Healthy masculine women don’t usually partner with controlling, manipulative men. Instead, what we see here is a classic dynamic: a wounded feminine woman clings to a man who presents financial security but lacks true protective, stable masculine energy.
Why Aubrey Is a Feminized Man
Aubrey Marcus constantly:
- Cries on his podcasts.
- Over-shares emotions.
- Seeks to be understood (a feminine trait).
- Passes off his wife to other men (the opposite of masculine protectiveness).
This isn’t masculinity—it’s feminization disguised as spirituality. True masculine energy is stoic, disciplined, protective, and stable. By contrast, Aubrey embodies chaos, confusion, and indulgence.
Money as a Buffer
One reason this lifestyle persists is because Aubrey’s wealth shields him from consequences. As Shaman Patrick (another creator) pointed out, if Aubrey lost his money, the women would likely leave—and the polyamory, plant medicine excess, and chaos would collapse.
Money doesn’t equal masculinity. But for wounded feminine women, it can feel like enough to justify staying in unhealthy dynamics.
Why This Matters for Women Watching
The biggest takeaway from this Aubrey Marcus podcast reaction is not to criticize for the sake of gossip—it’s to highlight what not to look for in a man.
A feminized man who:
- Uses plant medicine to avoid reality.
- Confuses kink with spirituality.
- Doesn’t embody discipline, provision, or protection.
…is not the kind of man who creates stability or safety in a relationship.
Ladies, stay away from men like this. Instead, seek out men who:
- Take responsibility.
- Embody discipline.
- Provide and protect.
- Hold the masculine pole so you can relax into your feminine energy.
Final Thoughts
Aubrey Marcus keeps putting his personal life on display, and each podcast gives us more proof of how dangerous these spiritualized, feminized dynamics can be. Healthy relationships thrive on polarity—masculine and feminine energy working together in balance—not two people competing in wounded feminine chaos.
And let’s be real: this won’t be the last Aubrey Marcus podcast reaction we do. Because every time he releases another episode, he digs the hole deeper.
If you want to go deeper into understanding masculine and feminine dynamics (without the chaos, drama, and spiritual word salad), check out my Masterclass on Polarity and Energy Dynamics linked below.
Your relationships will thank you.