To get back in tune with my feminine energy, I did something a lot of people would call drastic. I left the United States.
That was three years ago. I have been living in Mexico ever since, and in that time my husband has helped hundreds of people move abroad through his own work. Between his clients, our friends around the world, and the stories that land in our inbox every week, one pattern keeps surfacing.
Sometimes, to get back into your feminine energy, you have to change your environment.
That is why you are seeing more American women moving abroad and saying the same thing on their channels: leaving the United States was one of the best things they ever did for their feminine energy and their nervous systems. In this post I want to walk you through why, from the inside of my own experience.
Why American Women Moving Abroad Is Suddenly Everywhere
This is not just my story. We know American women who have moved to France, South Africa, Korea, the Middle East, and all over Latin America, and they describe the same shift I am about to describe. My husband was recently interviewed on an international news station about the trend of Americans relocating, because the numbers keep growing and American women are one of the largest groups making the move.
The reason is simpler than the headlines make it sound. A woman cannot live in her feminine energy while her body is in survival mode. Feminine energy is not a personality or an outfit. It is what becomes available when your nervous system finally feels safe. And for a lot of us, the environment we were living in never let that happen.
First, Some Gratitude and Some Honesty
Before I go further, I want to be clear about where I stand.
My family fled communist Cuba. My husband’s family fled the USSR. The United States gave both of our families a second chance, and we are forever grateful for that. All we are doing now is what our parents and grandparents did: giving ourselves a second chance somewhere else, in a different era with different options.
I am also grateful for what the United States taught me. It teaches you how to make money, how to solve problems, and how to take care of yourself. Those skills travel beautifully. They are a big part of why my husband and I could build online businesses, qualify for residency in Mexico, and design a life on our own terms.
And one more thing: there is no such thing as a perfect country. Mexico has problems. Every country does. This is not a bashing-America post. It is an honest look at what changed in my body when I changed my environment, for the women who have been asking.
Opting Out of the Noise
The first shift was opting out of a conversation that was never designed to serve me.
In the United States, women are handed a constant tug-of-war. One side promises to protect your rights while quietly teaching you to rely on institutions that do not actually care about your wellbeing. The other side celebrates family and tradition while opposing the social support that would make that life possible. Either way, you are left holding all of it yourself, and your body keeps score.
When you leave, something quiet happens. You stop participating. Not out of apathy, but because you can finally see the whole arrangement from the outside, and you realize how much of your daily anxiety was manufactured for you. That anxiety was never yours to carry.
Here is the mechanism underneath it: a nervous system that is constantly braced against conflict cannot soften into receptivity. When the noise drops away, the bracing drops with it.
Healthcare Without the Constant Low-Grade Fear
The last time my husband and I visited the United States, he caught the flu. Even with travelers insurance, treatment was going to cost about a thousand dollars. He rescheduled our flight, drank a lot of ginger and lemon tea, and waited it out instead.
When we landed back in Mexico, I felt my whole chest loosen. Here, if something basic comes up, I go to the pharmacy. If I need a specialist, it might cost fifty dollars, and I can message my doctor directly on WhatsApp. A friend of ours who has lived in Korea for fifteen years received a government debit card during her pregnancy to help cover what she needed, and her prenatal appointments were free.
Think about what it does to a woman’s body to carry the question “what if I get sick” every single day for years. That question is a stress response on a loop. Remove it, and the exhale you have been waiting for finally arrives on its own.
Food That Works With Your Hormones
In the United States I had thyroid problems, and I thought carefully about everything I ate because so much of the food supply worked against my hormones. In Mexico, my groceries come from local farms. Our neighbor runs a berry farm, and when she has a big harvest, that is where my berries come from.
When my husband left the United States, he was on a long list of medications he was told he would take for life. Three years later, he takes none of them. I am not promising that outcome to anyone, and neither is he. I am telling you what we watched happen in our own home when fresher food, lower stress, and accessible care all arrived at the same time.
Here is the part I want you to hear as a woman: your hormones are your feminine energy’s infrastructure. When your body is not fighting its own food supply, regulation stops being a project and starts being your baseline.
Self-Care as Ordinary Life, Not a Luxury
We live ten minutes from thermal spas fed by natural hot springs. Nobody here treats that as an indulgence. It is simply part of life, the way a weekly massage is part of the protocol in much of Asia rather than a special-occasion splurge.
In the United States, everything that regulates a woman’s nervous system has been repackaged as a luxury product. Rest costs extra. Here, the things that bring you back to your body are woven into the ordinary week, which means you actually do them.
The Cost of Living, and the Six Months I Cried
We ran the numbers recently. We live well on less than two thousand dollars a month, in a condo overlooking Lake Chapala, including private health insurance, good food, and a house helper who helps us cook and clean. Seven years ago I was paying fifteen hundred dollars for my half of the rent on a condo in Miami.
I spent eight years working in the finance industry, so I will say this plainly: when both adults in an average American household must work full time and still cannot cover the bills, the problem is not that everyone suddenly forgot how to budget. The math itself has stopped working, and anyone telling you otherwise is not looking at the numbers.
Why does this matter for feminine energy? Because financial pressure is not just a spreadsheet problem. It is a physiological state. A woman under constant survival pressure cannot access her creativity, her softness, or her magnetism, because her body is spending everything on staying alert.
I learned this the humbling way. For my first six months in Mexico, I cried almost every day. I was not homesick. My life was visibly improving. It took us months to understand what was happening: my body was finally safe enough to release seven or eight years of stored survival stress. The tears were not a breakdown. They were the exhale.
Community, Third Spaces, and Friendships That Hold
In Mexico, people work hard and they gather harder. Any excuse becomes a family dinner, a neighborhood party, a night in the plaza. Right now, with the World Cup on, every plaza in the country is full. But honestly, the plazas were never empty.
When we lived in Guadalajara, one neighbor taught art classes and another taught flamenco. We got certified in holistic healing three blocks from home and made friends I consider friends for life. All of our neighbors share a WhatsApp group and look out for each other. We could walk to everything we needed within ten minutes: the pharmacy, the bank, three grocery stores.
Compare that to the United States, where for many women the entire social network is coworkers and clients, where third spaces have mostly disappeared, and where you sit in a car alone just to buy groceries. Deep relationship is not a nice-to-have for feminine energy. Connection is co-regulation. Your nervous system settles in the presence of people who know you, and it cannot do that through a phone screen.
The Real Lesson: Your Environment Is Not Neutral
Put all of this together and the through-line is one sentence: I am simply not living in a constant state of stress anymore.
That is what every one of these women, the ones who left for love, for adventure, for relief, keeps saying in her own words. I finally gave my body a minute. I am not on the hamster wheel. I can breathe.
You cannot regulate your way out of an environment that is actively dysregulating you, at least not without spending enormous effort to swim upstream. Sometimes the deepest act of self-trust is admitting the water you are swimming in is the problem. As my husband likes to say, change your environment and everything else starts to change.
Moving abroad is not the answer for everyone, and it does not have to be. Maybe your version is a different city, a slower calendar, a home that actually soothes you. You get to choose the path that feels true to your body.
But if you have been feeling the pull, I want you to know it is not crazy. It might be your body asking for the conditions it needs to finally soften.
If you want to begin that softening wherever you live right now, download my free Enhance Your Feminine Energy Guide. Women in more than fifty countries have used it to reconnect with their feminine energy in their relationships, their money, and their own bodies, and it will meet you exactly where you are. And if the logistics of an actual move are your question, my husband shares everything he has learned helping hundreds of people relocate on his channel, Entrepreneur Expat.
Your body already knows what it is asking for. You are allowed to listen.
With devotion, Amanda